Domestic and Family Violence is Never Acceptable
Violence and abuse in relationships comes in many forms, it is not only physical, and can include financial abuse and other forms of abuse that seeks to isolate and control a partner. No form of abuse is acceptable, as they all hurt or make a person feel unsafe. To learn more please visit 1800 Respect.
Everyone has a right to feel safe in their home – please reach out to support services if someone in your home makes you feel unsafe. Services are ready to help you and know how to keep everyone safe .
On this page you will find information to assist you through this difficult period, or to assist someone you are concerned about. You will also find links to websites and phone numbers to services that can provide more tailored assistance.
Safety Tips (1800RESPECT)(Back to top)
There are some simple things you can do to help you feel safe at home:
- Contact 1800RESPECT by phone or web chat when you feel safe to do so. Their counsellors are experienced in dealing with situations where the person using violence remains in the house, and will work with you on a safety plan.
- Phone: 1800RESEPCT / 1800 737 732
- Webchat via website
- Identify safe areas of the house where there are less dangerous items and may be ways to escape if possible.
- Have a phone charged and accessible, with stored important numbers, and a backup phone if possible.
- Call 000 at any time if you are in immediate danger, and teach your children how to call 000 if you are unable to do so. You will have to notify the police if there are COVID-19 concerns at your home
- Let trusted friends and neighbours know of your situation and develop a plan (this might include a code word or visual signal if you need help).
- Make a habit of backing into the driveway and keeping the car fuelled.
- Look through the Escape Bag checklist and note things to take with you (e.g. phone and charger, keys, important documents, key card or cash).
- Download the Sunny or Daisy apps for more information about safety planning and services in your area.
For more information about how to keep safe, visit the 1800 RESPECT webpage.
Support Services(Back to top)
1800 RESPECT is the national domestic violence and sexual assault hotline. The service offers information, free confidential counselling, and safety planning services.
Cumberland Women’s Health Centre
Cumberland Women’s Health Centre is a local Parramatta service for women run by women. The service provides counselling as well as domestic and family violence services for women. The services are free or low cost.
Financial Abuse Legal Service NSW
Financial Abuse Service NSW provides free, confidential legal information and advice to people across NSW who have money problems due to domestic abuse in an intimate partner relationship. During the pandemic, it is easier for financial abuse to be disguised as actions to manage financial stress, risk of infection and housing insecurity (e.g controlling access to household income or employment), and they are encouraging people to contact them at this critical time.
LGBTQ+ Violence Service
LGBTQ+ Violence Service is a 24/7 telephone service that provides trauma specialist counselling for anyone from the LGBTQ+ community who has recently or in the past experienced sexual, domestic and/or family violence.
Staying Home Leaving Violence Service
Staying Home and Leaving Violence is a local service for women who are experiencing violence in their interpersonal relationships.
Men’s Line is a free online and telephone service just for men, and offers great tips on healthy relationships and mental health.
- Phone: 1300 78 99 78 (24 hours/7 days)
- Webchat and video (skype) counselling via the website (24 hours/7 days)
RSPCA – Community Domestic Violence Program
The program offers practical solutions for pet owners leaving situations of domestic violence., including providing pet refuge and pet care services.
- Phone: 02 9782 4408 (9am-5pm, Mon-Fri)
Aging and Disability Abuse Hotline
The hotline is a free telephone service to assist older people or people with a disability experiencing exploitation, abuse or neglect. The service provides information and referral services.
Supporting Someone Experiencing Violence(Back to top)
You may be concerned about a friend or family member who might be experiencing violence in their home. The best thing you can do is to keep in contact—via phone, social media or text, and let them know that they are not alone. Other tips to keep in mind are:
- Believe them and take their fears seriously;
- Never blame the person experiencing violence for what has happened to them;
- Don’t make excuses for the person who has hurt them;
- Support them whenever they need to talk;
- Be part of their safety plan: know the code words or signals if they need to escape;
- Help in practical ways, e.g. by providing them with transport, a phone or a place to escape to;
- Call 000 at any time if they are in immediate danger.
For more information and support about assisting someone experiencing domestic and family violence, visit the 1800 RESPECT website.
Talking to Men about their Behaviour(Back to top)
National crime reports demonstrate that the majority of violence against women in Australia is at the hands of men. You may be concerned that a man you care about is using violence in their home. If you feel that his family or partner is in immediate danger ring 000. If you want to support him in changing his behaviour and it is safe for you to do so, MensLine Australia provides some simple tips on how to talk to him:
- Choose the right time and place to talk. Approach him when he is calm and offer help.
- Be direct and clear about what you have seen and what worries you.
- Remind him you care about him.
- Don’t fight with him or try to force him to do anything, or to see things your way. This can make things more dangerous for her. Keep the lines of communication open so you can be an influence on his thinking.
- Tell him his behaviour is his responsibility, especially if he continually tries to blame her.
- Remind him that there is hope and he can change, that there is help available.
- Avoid making judgemental comments about him as a person.
- Tell him the violence needs to stop.
- Remind him that violence and control does not make his family safe.
For more advice on how to talk to your friend or tips on how to support their partner, you can call MensLine, 1300 78 99 78, or visit their website.